Men are from Mars Women are from Venus

Men and women are from different nature, thus we need to understand both natures and treat them accordingly. We need to respect and accept these differences.

Men’s nature;

  • Men are MR. Fix It; always offer solutions.
  • Don’t like to share problems with others, they rather be quiet and try to solve them by themselves. If they need help, they’ll ask for it.
  • Need women’s approvals.
  • Need women’s acceptance.
  • Need women’s admiration.
  • Need women’s encouragement.
  • Need women’s appreciation.
  • Need women’s trust.
  • Don’t like to be advised or corrected, if they want any advice, they’ll ask for it.
  • Men are like rubber band. There is a cycle where there are times when they’re going to be very negative, understand this, don’t take it negatively.

 

Women’s nature;

  • Women are home-improvement committee; always trying to improvise everything.
  • Love to share their feelings.
  • Need to be heard of their problems and feelings, don’t offer solutions. Just listen to them.
  • Need care from men.
  • Need respect from men.
  • They need men’s devotion.
  • They need reassurance.
  • They need validation.
  • They need men to understand them.
  • Women are like waves. They also have their cycles, there are times when they are down, men need to listen to them.
  • They don’t like to speak directly, they say something that means something else. They want men to understand them. 

 

Practices

  1. Small things make a big different; men should do the small things for women, women should be grateful for what the men have done.
  2. Men should learn how to be a good listener.
  3. Women should learn how to speak directly but at the same time do not sound demanding or improvising.
  4. Avoid arguments.
  5. Communicate your difficult feelings via writing a love letter. Express your feelings; anger, sadness, fear, regret and love (the best is follow this sequence), then write your expectations or response on what you want your partner to do. Finally share this letter with your partner.
  6. Remember that love will not always blooming. There are times when we feel less affection, fed up etcetera. Bare with these negative feelings and always try to get rid of them.

 

My conclusion: Practice Islam thoroughly and we’ll be a good man and woman. Practice husnu zhon, sobr, qona’ah, tawakkal, taubah, zikr and more. Read about the Porphet s.a.w and try to practice his sunnah. He s.a.w. said;

The most perfect believer in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behaviour; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives.’ Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 278 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

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    farhan said,

    salam
    nice review bro..
    i’m reading this book too..still haven’t finish yet..

    ps:diam2 je dia tulis blog


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